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Rejection Is Never Easy
Rejection is never easy; but when you understand that you can get what you want somewhere else the experience of being rejected looses its power. People who reject you do so because they believe that you are not good enough to be apart of their world. And when you think about all the people who have ever rejected you the one thing they all have in common is that belief that they had something you need; and while this might in fact be the case you must always remember that they are not the only ones who have it. There are 300 million people in the United States of America and billions of people in the world and when one person or group rejects you it is important to remember that there’s got to be somebody—somewhere who would love to have the chance to give you what they won’t.
The real problem of rejection is not the fact that people say no, but rather the inconvenient truth that too often we build our lives on the hope of them saying yes. And whenever you have too much invested in yes—no has the power to destroy you. I have seen people beg their way into other people’s lives. I have watched others try to buy their way into relationships but in the end you can’t make people love you. And why would you want to?
The fact that you have to beg your way into a situation is probably a good indication of the fact that you were never supposed to be there in the first place. You don’t have to beg anybody for anything because what God has for you is for you. When it’s yours you know it.
Let them say no. Let them walk away. Let them reject you because as long as God is saying yes…it doesn’t matter who says no. When you don’t need to be in—it doesn’t bother you when people lock you out. It is when you learn how to walk alone that you become author of your own horoscope. Stop worrying about them and write your own future.
May the oil of your life be full of his grace,
All my best!
April 20, 2007 at 12:22 pm
Wow!!! As I said during Bible Study last night, this is a tough lesson to learn. I know that you keep repeating it until you finally get it–that’s me! I don’t handle rejection very well at all. If I’m rejected by a group, I get downright angry, but eventually I accept it. If it’s someone I want to be in or stay in a relationship with, that’s a whole ‘nuther level–too embarrassing to even talk about–but you were definitely all over my page last night!
Ironically, when I have had to walk alone, after awhile, it started to actually be enjoyable–didn’t have to contort myself to get someone to keep me around–I could just be.
But it’s been awhile and now it seems so difficult to get back there.
And thanks for shedding a different light on Paul.
April 22, 2007 at 7:49 am
Man’s rejection is God’s protection!! I had to walk alone Friday morning @ exactly 10 am. All joking aside…rejection is most times painful but when we learn that rejection is more about the other person or group and less about us; then we learn how not to add misery to our pain. It is often times the conclusions we draw from rejection that create the reality of our misery.
May 18, 2007 at 11:17 pm
When I think about rejection I use a more positive analysis. If I do not try how will I know what it feels like to succeed. Success comes with rejection, it is because of those rejections that God has made you wait for what is truely yours. We don’t like how it may feel but we have to know that God knows what’s best for our lives.For what is your’s is your’s and no one can take it from you.